Downsizing is a daunting task for anyone. Imagine how much harder it is when you are unwell or used to being totally independent and yet find yourself overwhelmed with everything that needs to be done. Many in this situation also know deep down they need extra support now, but really don’t want to leave the comfort of their home.
This is the situation many elderly people find themselves in. It is especially hard if there is no family or friends to around to assist with their move. If you have a relative or friend in this situation, here are some steps to follow to start the process...
Be empathetic. Acknowledge this is a difficult time of life and that so many years of memories are intrinsically tied up in the family home of 40 years or more. Assure mum and/or dad they have ultimate control over what goes with them, what is donated and what is disposed of. This is the most important step, as you need to have your elderly person on board with the changes that will be happening.
Focus. Focus on the benefits of downsizing. If they are going to a retirement village or rest home, talk with your loved ones about what they’ll be gaining with the move. There’s sure to be community and social activities they can be involved in if they choose.
Start those difficult conversations. Mum and/or dad might want to take everything with them, but because of limited space, realistically this isn’t possible. Talk with them about what is most important to them and work from there. Depending on the urgency of the move, maybe some items can be temporarily stored with friends and family. There is always the storage container option, but that can end up being expensive. Maybe there is a charity of choice they’d be happy to make donations to?
Enlist help. Are there other family or friends who can assist with the process? It’s important not to exclude someone who should be involved, plus many hands make light work. Remember not to overwhelm the person with too many choices at once. There might be many breaks and cups of tea, but slow and steady will have them moved to their new home, with much less angst.
Based on an article from https://timemade.com.au/
If you have a loved one that is ready to move into a smaller home and needs assistance with deciding what to get rid of, contact heather@timegenie.co.nz. I can work through the process with them, then help get rid of items no longer needed.
Heather Knewstubb
Time Genie Personal Concierge and Errand Services
Kapiti Coast
Ph: 022 394 8493
www.timegenie.co.nz
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